Constructive Conversations




Key Talking Points

The Do’s:

  • Be kind but clear. Remember that your feedback is to help them grow, not to criticize or make them feel bad about themselves. Ephesians 4:29

  • Give time to process. They might not see it your way just yet, but hopefully they will later. Be patient.

  • Keep earning trust. Spend time with your teen learning what makes them tick and hearing their perspective on life.

The Don’ts:

  • Don’t be passive-aggressive. Veiled criticism – like couching it in joke – only makes your teen feel worse.

  • Don’t be a nag. Constant criticism makes your voice quieter, not louder. Choose your battles.

  • Don’t lecture. They’ve probably heard your message many times before. Let them own it – and maybe even let them articulate it! Proverbs 22:6


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